Two years ago I moved in with a man. He led me to believe he was a Christian and that we would be married soon. He was great for the first six months, very similar to our courting period, but soon lost interest. He allows me to pay some of his bills, buy gifts for his kids and make modifications to his home. He asks that I buy groceries for three teens and an adult. I love him dearly but feel humiliated because I have had all the symptoms of a cheating partner. I should not have moved in but now I have sold my home and have a short term government contract job which is nearing an end. I have started looking for another home but now my 16 year old daughter is stable in her school and has made many friends. This man has made me feel as though I am crazy for asking where his whereabouts are when he leaves work early, doesn't arrive to work until late or doesn't come home when he knows I have errands. Worse yet, I left one night, came back to get my checkbook and he had another woman wrapped around him. I was in shock - most women would have clapped, made noise, or gone crazy on the two - - I walked in shock and have never confronted him. No, I am not crazy, but wish there could have been some legal way to inform me of his infidelity.

My boyfriend told me. he loved me i was the only one for him ect. turns out he was picking up women from online and sleeping with them he slept with eight different women our first year together and gave me a genital warts a std. i was totally destroyed. we broke up but now 4 years later we are seeing each other again. i believe people can change and deserve to forgiven case by case depending one the situation. i am writing this because i want people to know that you should trust your instinct if something doesn't feel right event if you have no proof. the odds are you are right never violate a gut feeling or "hunch" and the only way to free yourself from the pain is to realize that what the cheater did has nothing to with you being not good enough it has to do with the other persons selfish and deceitful ways. one more thing if you do decided to forgive and reconcile make sure you truly have let go of resentment for the other person caring that pain around is pointless if you are going to love someone don't be afraid to be vulnerable. but always keep your eyes open follow your instinct.

I met a younger man....we have been together for over a year.I went to Europe for school and while i was gone..he had his X-girl stay in the apartment where we live...Someone is always calling and hanging up and some of my stuff has been missing..HE asked me to marry him..and then ask if i would marry his brother to bring him here from another country..NO WAY!! We would have the same last name..I am out of here...low life!!

I have just ended a 4 month relationship... found out he was seeing 2 other women that I know about. Always wondering why his phone was on silent, or he had to cancel dates. I asked him about his behaviour, but he always had a story or would talk me round. But after several weeks my instincts and intuition made me delve deeper. I checked his message phone, and sure enough.. 2 different women had left messages of a personal nature. So I followed him the next night and he was at this womans house. I called him out and yes found out he was cheating on me. Also called the other woman, who's number I took from his phone.. she had been dating him a year. This guy was busted by me, and I dumped him big time, but I know he will go out and lie and cheat again. I'm so angry at his disregard for my feelings, even when I had asked him point blank what was going on.. I would have rather him dumped me! But I live and learn and know I will always trust my instincts... if he is inaccessible, secretive with his phone... thats the biggest clue. he's the loser, not me.. at least I got out early